People-pleasers are some of the most quietly controlling people in the room — and the anxiety driving that is the conversation nobody's having.
About Kori
Kori Strobl spent years giving a cup and hoping for a crumb — and calling it enough. She was generous, emotionally fluent, doing all the work, and quietly exhausted. She knew the people-pleasing conversation inside and out. She was even teaching it. And still, she was waiting for others to confirm that her changes were okay. They weren't. That honest reckoning led her to a framework that goes deeper than boundaries and boldness: to the relational anxiety underneath the behavior, the self-abandonment at its core, and the terrifying, worthwhile work of actually changing. She is the creator of A Recovering People-Pleaser's Guide to Belonging to Yourself, holds a Master's in Spiritual Psychology, and has been coaching privately for over a decade.
who kori speaks to
Kori's conversations meet listeners wherever they are — whether they're just starting to recognize themselves in these patterns or they've been doing the work for years and still can't break them. People consistently say her ideas make them feel seen, like someone finally put words to something they couldn't name.
conversation topics
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Most people-pleasing content focuses on being too giving, too accommodating, too kind. But the real issue isn't generosity — it's that people-pleasers have learned to extend care to everyone except themselves. This conversation reframes the whole problem and opens up what recovery actually requires.
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Underneath every people-pleasing behavior is relational anxiety — the fear of losing connection. The popular advice addresses the behaviors, but skips the engine driving them. Until you understand the anxiety, you're just rearranging furniture.
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People-pleasers attach fast and attach hard — based on how someone feels, not what they can actually show up for. The problem is that capacity takes time to reveal, and people-pleasers actively avoid the tension that would surface it. This conversation changes how people think about attraction, attachment, and who they choose.
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The most popular advice for people-pleasers is fundamentally misunderstood. Boundaries aren't something you set with another person — they're something you hold yourself. This reframe shifts the entire dynamic from negotiating with others to standing for yourself.
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People-pleasing content often sells boldness and empowerment as the immediate payoff of doing the work. The truth is messier — and more useful. Real change creates tension in relationships, disappoints people, and feels terrifying before it feels freeing. This conversation is for people who are doing everything right and wondering why it doesn't feel that way yet.
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People-pleasers don't just bring their patterns to relationships — their patterns often choose their relationships for them. This conversation explores how self-abandonment shapes who we attract, how we attach, and why changing those patterns requires more than just better boundaries.
To inquire about having Kori on your podcast or as a speaker, reach out directly:
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