My passion for understanding human behavior began when I was a teen. I watched my parents struggle in their unhappy relationship while going through my own teenage turmoil in isolation.
As the empath in my family, I had a whole lot of feelings but lacked the inner resources to know what to do with them all. Outwardly I learned to put a smile on my face, yet inwardly I lived with a tornado of hurt, disappointment, fear, and anxiety. I desperately needed help but didn’t see anyone around capable of helping me. So, like all instinctual humans in this position, I devised my own ways of coping:
Being loved didn’t seem possible, so I settled for being needed. Naturally averse to conflict, I assigned myself as the peacekeeper in the family, and everyone else went along with it.
My needs weren’t considered, so I settled for people-pleasing and felt satiated by filling other people’s needs. I stuffed my needs down so much, I assumed I had none and took pride in my “adaptability.”
I didn’t feel seen, so I settled for being sexualized and the attention it gave me.
My emotional pain transmuted into physical pain in my 20’s, when I was diagnosed with a progressive chronic pain disorder, R.S.D. (Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy). The prognosis was a lifelong sentence, yet after 5-years, I was off all medication and enjoying a life I was told wasn’t possible.
I was saved repeatedly by a Loving Presence I sometimes call God, the Beloved, or the Divine.
While my load often felt heavy, I sensed there was more to Life besides my overwhelming pain. In my academic pursuits, I reached, dug, and strived to understand and heal. I learned a whole lot… about myself, other humans, and how often we create and perpetuate our own suffering.
My Life and my Life’s work are intimately intertwined. I am an obsessive student. Learning is one of my greatest joys, especially learning about myself and other humans.
Teaching what I learn is one of God’s gifts to me and a way God expresses Itself through me.
I have come to realize that our ineffective and unconscious strategies in Life are rooted in a lack of mental, emotional, and spiritual resources. They don’t teach that stuff in school, and most of our parents were clueless too.
My journey has been one of healing from a lack of inner resources while learning the inner resources I need to grow through challenges and develop the confidence to create a LIFE I LOVE!
RESUME: I studied psychology, anthropology, and sociology in college, eventually receiving my M.A. in Spiritual Psychology. I also have advanced training and proficiency in yoga and chakra theory, basic training and practice in massage therapy, and Reiki I and II. These have helped me better understand the inter-connectedness of the body, heart, and mind in how they interpret, process, and express themselves in our inner and outer worlds.
HOW I WORK: I use my diverse training and refined intuition to guide clients through an enlightening experience of healing, awakening, forgiveness, empowerment, and growth. Using direct and insightful dialogue, breath-work, guided meditation, journaling exercises, and more, I encourage my clients to be honest, loving, and, when appropriate, light-hearted.